My daughter recently had pneumonia. At it’s peak, her fever was 105.4 degrees. It was so terrifying to imagine calling 911 for my five-year-old.
When this was going on, I really had to pull out ALL the stops to not lose my pebbles and freak out.
It was so tempting to blame this and that. And to shame myself for all the ways I could have done things differently to NOT be in this horrific situation.
But that would have been a waste of time.
In the end, we managed to lower her fever and get her on a swift road to recovery. And then I was able to recognize just what a huge GIFT this experience was for me and my family.
Not only did it bring me tremendous clarity about some patterns that were out of alignment, but it helped me see how I can prioritize the health and well-being of our family over other ‘important’ deadlines, tasks and to-dos.
In the midst of this crisis, I couldn’t help but think of all the people who have asked me over the years if they have bad luck or are just bad at manifesting, since they keep finding themselves in crappy situations.
The truth is it’s neither. Becoming a master at manifesting means embracing the challenges and contrast that come your way and being able to transform them into blessings.
So if you’ve ever asked yourself:
- Why did I manifest this totally horrible, awful, unwanted thing?
- Am I doing this Law Of Attraction thing wrong? Do I have ‘bad luck’?
- What do I do once I’m in the middle of a crisis to not attract more negative outcomes?
Then click play on today’s Lana TV episode where I share how you can transform tragedies into blessings and become the deliberate creator you’ve come here to be.
The key to getting out of the negative cycle of pain, shame and blame after something awful happens is to truly embrace Abraham-Hick’s Step #5: Not being upset when you find yourself back in a Step #1 situation.
Step #1 is simply you living life, experiencing contrast and preferring what you like. Kind of like programming your GPS toward the destination that you want.
Step #2 is Source tending to what you want and calling you toward it. This is the GPS giving you directions to your desires.
Step #3 is you being in a space of allowing and hearing the GPS directions and following them.
Step #4 is deliberately and consistently finding yourself in Step #3 allowing mode.
And Step #5 is enjoying the full spectrum of emotions, understanding the value of contrast and no longer fearing or being upset when you find yourself up a creek without a paddle (because you know how to program the GPS and arrive at your destination).
Step #5 mastery means instead of asking “Why did I manifest this? Why do I have such back luck?” you say, “Oh good, I did that. Let’s see what gifts it brings me.”
Whatever you ascribe to a situation, is what you will derive from it. So if you think it’s a tragedy, it can only bring you discomfort and pain. If you see it as a blessing in disguise, it will eventually reveal the gift.
Now I want to hear from you:
- What awful things have you experienced that initially brought you pain, shame and blame, but in hindsight you can see the benefits and gifts from the situation?
- What helps you live more in Step #5, appreciate ALL the experiences of life and see the silver lining in all situations?
I can’t wait to hear your powerful stories of pivoting from feeling powerless and fearful to empowered and invincible!
And if you’d love some support to deliberately step into more ease, trust, flow and joy in your life, then check out my 21-Day Full of Ease Course. I’ve brought it back by popular demand to help you create a steady habit of taking time for yourself and living life in alignment with your priorities. Learn more about the 21-Day Full of Ease Course here!
Loved your video this week Lana!!! It was exactly what I needed to start my morning.
Happy it gave you an empowered start to the day Cara!!
I LOVE this explanation! Thanks so much for this perspective, Lana!
So glad Alionka! Feel free to share. 🙂
Great episode Lana! I have been manifesting a lot of difficult people for a few years now. After another major blow up with my sister last night I came away feeling so free and full of clarity. And I realised that all these negative people and experience are giving me two blessings. One giving myself permission to be emotionally and physically free from negativity and two, it’s showed me that I haven’t come out of the spiritual closet. That changes now.
Come out and be proud Sladana! Love the clarity and the blessings you describe. Feels so much better to look at life in this way, doesn’t it?
Hi Lana,
So glad to have caught your video today. I think my whole life has been one continuous buildup of attempts to master step 5! It feels like with every challenging experience I’ve handled and have seen the blessings in eventually, a new one is put at my feet! I haven’t always been the most grateful student, at least not right away. After I go through all the emotions of confusion, frustration, anger, sadness, etc., over time I do come to see the lesson I was meant to learn. I hope that over my life, that time period of anticipating the eventual blessings during the trial will continue to shorten!
Over these last several months, my lesson to master has definitely been the continuation of an often-lifelong experience of feeling ignored or rejected, and wondering how I’m supposed to use, in a practical sense, all the amazing gifts I know I have and have developed within. I’m recently learning to be able to imagine myself at various stages in my life, to insert my current self into those images, to comfort and love that girl, that young woman, that very-recent me who just wanted to feel validated, loved, seen, connected with, valuable, and paid attention to. It’s helped me strengthen my relationship with myself and put greater trust in the universe, trusting that I wouldn’t have had the life I have if I wasn’t supposed to use it in greater ways.
I’m still unclear about what more of those greater ways are at this point, but I’m getting better at trusting that they’ll show up in the best timing, even if it seems like right now I’m taking each step into darkness with a blindfold on. Paradoxically, I have *a* very clear vision for what I’d love for my future life to involve, but so far the universe has been silent in many of my attempts at co-creating it. So that is just teaching me that there must be other better ways that may show up later. 🙂
I think it’s natural to react and then find the grace Francine. Sound like you are doing a beautiful job of doing that! And if you want more ease in creating the kind of life that you dream of, hope you’ll check out the Get Full Of Yourself Membership which is *all* about that: http://www.lanashlafer.com/gfy. Doors will open again in May!
I love this perspective!! Thank you <3
Thank you Raine! <3
Love this video, Lana! It is really nice to get a peek at how you were able to truly embrace the contrast for the gift it provides; especially in such an emotionally charged situation! Glad your daughter is feeling well again! What a wonderful example and it was so helpful for me!
Thank you Bev!
Love this! I recently broke my arm on a snowboarding trip. Initially I was upset that it happened but at the same time knew that I create my reality so I didn’t stay upset for very long. I then realized that I was achieving Step 5 and it felt so empowering. It has even gone so far as a coworker saying “I have never heard someone put such a positive spin on breaking an arm” as I was telling the story of how it happened!
Way to step 5 it up Jason! And I bet this downtime will serve you in amazing ways!
Hi again! Came back to add that I followed your lead and embraced some contrast, saying, “This is serving us! It’s all for our good!” I made decision about it and felt the relief in it. You know how you can feel yourself breathe when you decide, “I’m gonna do this”? I feel this is leading me in the right direction! Thank you again!!
Woo hoo Bev!!!! Well done!!! And now life will bring you the good that you’ve proclaimed, that’s what the feeling of relief represents!
I love this video. Thank you! This has been on my mind a lot lately. Instead of blame and feeding more into the negative energy when I think that I had manifested the negative things in my life, I can now ask a better question, “What gifts will this bring me?” Wow, love it!
It will not only make a huge difference in how you will feel, but also in how this situation serves you, Ling!
OMG Lana – love this video so much! You are amazing <3
Thank you, sweet Sarah! <3
Lately I keep coming upon issues of facing my fear of confrontation and it is about my value and worth in the world. This week it came up again and I started to fume and fret (as usual). Then I stopped and asked my higher self for the solution of how to deal with the issue. I let it go and carried on with my work.
An hour later, a brilliant and positive solution presented itself. As I thought about my solution, my mood soared. I bought into my new happy story. The outcome? The sour lemon turned into a delicious lemonade with the sweetness of the creative solution!
Brilliant Wanda!!!
Can anyone help me understand how my child having acute cerebral palsy with visual impairment is a positive thing? Or how I can derive anything positive out of that? I am totally devastated mentally and unable to function positively.
Dear Mangala, I don’t think that everything is positive. But we can find meaning in whatever is happening. I have done many videos and blogs on how to be able to make the best of any situation and I hope they will help you as you navigate this challenge/opportunity. Sending you big love.