It’s time we have a heart-to-heart about boundaries.
You know you gotta get some, set some and defend some… but how?
Frequently we look at them as walls that we need to erect to protect ourselves and keep ‘the bad’ out.
So we make the boundaries about others, not about ourselves. We make it about what’s out there, not what’s inside of us.
That’s mistake numero uno. Because then we give our power to external circumstances and people.
Which we can’t control. So we are left feeling powerless.
But what if I told you that boundaries are not there to keep others out, but to keep you in?
And what if I gave you an exercise to help you set healthy, effective boundaries that will feel GOOD to you and create the positive impact you seek?
Press play below to watch Set Fail-Proof Boundaries That Feel Good.
Video Timestamps:
- 1:10 – How to tell which boundaries are healthy (and which aren’t)
- 2:40 – What to do when you don’t feel seen or valued
- 3:55 – How to establish boundaries from a place of allowing rather than resistance
- 5:35 – Getting the power struggle out of the boundary-setting process
- 7:10 – Why healthy boundaries are about co-creation, not compromise
- 8:50 – An exercise to create healthier boundaries
After you watch this video, I’d love to know what you took away.
So leave me a comment below about whether you agree or disagree? Are you game to try the exercise I share?
Let’s build healthy boundaries that invite more empowerment and freedom!
In my case, my boundaries have created over time. Because in a way you are leading someone, or people to behave in a certain way along with you and this takes time and consistent self control every time. For example, that I am not suppose to visit people on their every party or that I will not be so connected with people has taken time for people to understand the real me. My space/ aura feels better inside out and it gives me strength to command my space. Frankly it has taken 3-4 years for me to reach this far that people now no longer come with an expectation that i would be available right there.
I agree that it takes practice and time to create better boundaries and it’s really always a work in progress!
I love this idea of boundaries put in a more positive way. I would love more examples of this.
It feels so much better, doesn’t it? I dive into the concept of Boundarie in the Q&A Calls in the Manifest Miracles Bootcamp. And I’m definitely going to be addressing how to create more clear, healthy, aligned boundaries in the Self-Worth course I’m working on for 2020! Can’t wait to share more!
This was super helpful, Lana! I have a really hard time setting & upholding boundaries because I am very much an “accommodator” and pleaser. It’s something I’ve been working on this year & though I’ve definitely gotten more comfortable with it (at first there was a tremendous amount of guilt associated with setting boundaries!), your approach of thinking of it as a way to keep yourself “in”, instead of keeping others “out” really resonated with me. Going to try out the exercise for sure!
This came at such a perfect time. LOVE this so much. I really needed this. It feels absolutely true and right on to me. Thank you.
I’m so happy to hear that!!!